You may feel sad, discouraged, ashamed, or alone after getting an ileostomy. You may cry or become angry easily, or you may not have much patience.
Try talking with a close friend, your doctor or nurse, or a family member you feel close to. Ask your doctor about seeing a mental health counselor. There may also be a support group in your area for people who have had ileostomies.
When you eat out or go to a party, remember it is normal for most people to use the bathroom after they eat or drink. Do not feel embarrassed or self-conscious if you need to use the bathroom to empty your pouch.
You may be nervous about talking about your ileostomy with your friends, your family members, and people you work with. This is normal. You do not need to explain everything to everyone, even if they ask.
If you have children, they may ask to see your stoma or pouch. Try to be relaxed when you talk with them about it. Try to explain how it works and why you have it. Answer their questions so they do not develop wrong ideas about it on their own.
Attend a local ostomy support group if there is one in your area. Go by yourself, or take your spouse, another family member, or a friend. It may be helpful for you to get ideas and talk with others who also have had ileostomies. If you have a partner, it can be helpful for both of you to talk with other couples about how they live with an ileostomy.