You may feel sad, discouraged, ashamed, or alone after getting an ileostomy. You may cry or become angry easily, or you may not have much patience.
Try talking with a close friend, your doctor or nurse, or a family member you feel close to. Ask your doctor about seeing a mental health counselor. There may also be a support group in your area for people who have had ileostomies.
When you eat out or go to a party, remember it is normal for most people to use the bathroom after they eat or drink. DO NOT feel embarrassed or self-conscious if you need to use the bathroom to empty your pouch.
You may be nervous about talking about your ileostomy with other people in your life. This is normal. You should not feel obliged to talk more than you want to, or even at all if people are curious and ask too many questions.
If you have children, they may ask to see your stoma or pouch. Try to be relaxed when you talk with them about it. Try to explain how it works and why you have it. Answer their questions so they do not develop wrong ideas about it on their own.
Attend a local ostomy support group if there is one in your area. You can go by yourself, or take a spouse, family member, or friend with you. It may help to talk to others who have ileostomies and share ideas. If you have a partner, it can help for both of you to talk with other couples about how they live with an ileostomy.