Children do not like to be different from their friends and classmates. Your child may have many difficult emotions, including frustration and embarrassment.
You may see some changes in your child’s behavior at first. Sometimes teenagers have a harder time accepting their ileostomy than younger children. Try to keep a positive attitude and use humor when it fits the situation. You being open and natural will help your child’s behavior stay positive.
Help your child learn how to handle problems with their ileostomy on their own.
Help your child decide who they want to talk to about their ileostomy. Talk with your child about what they will say. Be firm, calm, and open. It can help to do a role play, where you pretend you are one of the people your child has decided to tell about their ileostomy. Ask questions that person might ask. This will help your child prepare to talk with other people.
Your child should feel that you understand what it is like to have an ileostomy. Help them learn to take care of themselves, and let them know they will be able to live a full life.
When problems do happen, stay calm and ask for help from your child’s health care provider.